Miscellaneous Bull
That’s right. You read it. I have no agenda. No concept. It’s almost like it’s Tuesday, only it’s NOT. I just feel like writing something and I want to enjoy myself. No memes (although I was tempted to toss a Thursday 13 in, but that would require me to both think and do math), no tips-just me today.
I rarely bring too much of my personal life into my blogs. I just don’t think that many people care to read about it, to be honest. I love to motivate and inspire and am personally shocked that I’m actually effective at it. What a super cool feeling to know that I can help people, it really is but I notice I haven’t taken any time for me lately to just be who I am.
I like me. I think I’m a little mouthy, although I actually try to reserve myself a bit in the past few months so as to not offend people. I like to swear. I know it’s not “lady like” but I have NO interest in being a lady. I love my children and recently realized just how much when my mom offered to take my 4 year old to her house for a few weeks. I was all for it. I figured I’d get extra bloggy time to catch up on the piles of work I have to get through and also give me the one on one time with my 1 year old that he so deserves.
So the time comes and Jake packs and leaves. I was okay until about 5 seconds into his trip, when I watched that truck drive off down the street. Suddenly, my 4 year old was a baby again, in my arms loving me. I broke down. I wanted my son. I needed my baby but I had to be strong lest I look like a total pansy.
Never fear, though, because about 30 minutes later the phone rang and mom said Jake wants to come home. Part of me was sad because the 2 weeks he’d be vacationing probably would have been made into a very productive experience for me (I was seriously considering a baseboard cleaning), but most of me was so overwhelmed with relief, I burst into tears again in anticipation of his arrival.
In the meantime, I got on Twitter and had great support from people I’ve never actually met, but consider great friends. That’s the beauty of blogging. There is a ridiculous amount of blama (blog drama) going around about mom’s reviewing products, if mom’s should have separate review sites or not, and people are fighting everywhere. I actually have something to say on that so I’m going to.
Mom’s are the most unappreciated people on earth. We cook, clean, rear, care for and do what is required of us without thought every single day, only to get our pat on the head once a year (if that) when Mother’s Day rolls around. In my eyes, mother’s are celebrities. We deserve good things. If a company wants to send a mother a product to look at, LET THEM. Every blog I’ve read does reviews of some kind and yes, most all are positive. I’ve been reviewing products since I started blogging, some good-some not so good.
I tell a company that I prefer to write positive things on my blog. I consider myself a motivational speaker, and to write too many negative reviews goes against who I am as a person. If I don’t like something about a person, service or product, I simply choose not to talk about it, or I look for the benefits to accent instead. I have contacted companies after reviewing a product and have told them that I’d be happy to talk about my impression, but it wouldn’t be favorable and together, we’ve found another product that might better suit my family and lifestyle.
I dont read a lot of review sites, and I will not base a potential purchase off the word of one individual. I just ordered a new ASUS Netbook and if it wasn’t for the overwhelming replies from the ones I trust on Twitter combined with my own research, I wouldn’t have gotten it. I have my own mind and can think for myself and take the opinions of others to help guide me in my choices, but don’t completely rely on them to do so.
That’s all I have to say about that. It’s just so frustrating to me. We all blog of different reasons. Me? I just like to talk. Constantly. I always have something to say. Yes, I like getting products to review but I will not take anything thrown my way simply because it is. I try to keep some structure to my websites, which is why you’ll find most of my fitness talk on the Wii Mommies and my product talk in my Review subdomain. I don’t know my stats, I don’t care about my page rank and don’t get paid shit.
I simply love to share my thoughts with all of you. With my Random Tuesdays, Wordless Wednesdays and Fitness Fridays, I can always tell what day of the week it is and I’m participating in a group activity that bonds me to others across the world. In the past year, I have met and made some of the best friends I’ll ever have. Women and men I may never meet in person (except you, Jenn-I’m on my way) I know I will hold close in my heart and remain true to for as long as they’ll be in my life.
I’ve also made some enemies, as luck would have it. Blogging is like high school and there is always a hater in high school looking to make someone miserable. I’m oddly comforted by these enemies. It means I actually do have a voice in this world. Personally, when I don’t like someone (I’m not a big fan of people who don’t like me), I just forget they exist and carry on but when you know you’re being constantly watched and possibly mocked, it’s almost a compliment in a way because instead of taking the time to focus on being positive and helpful, these people are wasting their energy on paying attention to me.
Keep it up! It brings me extra page views and I could use the ad revenue. Stalk away, I say. Talk your shit, because that might intrigue someone else to come and read my blog only to find I’m actually NOT as asshole (typically). I’m sure your readers (if you have any), children or family would rather you do the dishes or stop throwing darts at the print out of my blog header, but I say enjoy yourself. If hating is what you do, hate away (but people think you’re unattractive for it, FYI. I read it in a magazine).
So this turned out fairly random. Pretty long, too. I don’t really like long blog posts, but like I said, this one is for me. No linkies to sign and nothing to promote. It’s just for me.
Thirty minutes after my mother told me my son was coming home to me, the door flung open and he ran into my arms. We sat for about ten minutes, crying and laughing and happy to be in each other’s arms.
Then I made him get ready to go to school.
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You’re right to take those kinds of people as a compliment. You can never please everyone offline or online. I like your random sh**
WOW – did you breath during that post? All I can picture is you talking like me without a breath in between! I love this post, love getting a bigger view of YOU and I do miss chatting with you!!!
Forget the blama and have some fun Mama!
Oh and stop by my blog to gain an award I gave ya!
http://happilyblended.com/2009/05/one-lovely-blog-award/
It was nice getting to know you for who you are.
FYI no, you are not boring. Someday I’ll get a WiiFit and join you at WiiMommies I’m glad your son is home and back in your arms and then off to school. lol
I loved the progression of where you took us. Too funny. Didn’t know you had “enemies”. You’re the first person I’ve heard of, who like me, think it’s a compliment when people don’t like me. I could care less what people think of me. I”m probably way happier than they are anyway. You’re right, they are expending too much energy not liking you.
5 minutes and I miss my kids too. Not sure what’ll happen when college comes around. Now I know why my mom was so sad.
Guess I better shut up now, or my comment will be as long as your post. lol
As random asit was, I liked reading this. Especially the part about you missing your son and then getting the call that he missed you too. That was nice.
This was a wonderful post. I truely enjoyed it and feel the same as you. Why as mothers do we have to put each other down for doing what we want to do. If you don’t like it then don’t do it and don’t go to the person blog who is doing it and most importantly don’t judge that person for doing it. I am beginning to do reviews and so far I am really enjoying it. I am not getting paid for it, but I’m given information to others based on my opinon, a fellow mom. Don’t just rely on me do your own research.
I can relate to you about your son leaving. I leave every morning to go to work and I so wish I can call my baby and say I wanna come home. But we just love one each other when I get there. He gets rather cranky because I try to get out of my clothes and that’s just taking way too long for him to get into my arms. But I love it.
Great random post. And so funny about your son, only 30 minutes really? Thats really sweet.
And you have a great outlook on the “haters” just let them go…….
ha.
I am going through a divorce, I sat back and dreamed of all the things I was going to do on visitation weekend, the weekend that the kids would be AWAY.
When that day came, I sat on my deck and cried. I laid on the couch and cried. I didn’t DO anything I dreamt I would…I could barely motivate myself to shower.
I am sure in time it will be easier and I will look forward to that time alone…but right now…it’s hard.
so, went into my own little story there in your comments.
I like your blog, true talk, memes, or whatever. SO no hater here.
This was a great, post. I was crying thinking about your son wnating to come home. I’m a stalker but I do love reading blogs, and I think yours rocks! And uh you got me to hound my hubbie to buy a wii!:) of course I didn’t ‘hound’ I just said well this way I can participate. he still thinks i’m blogging to find my get rich quick scheme. shhhhhh!
My daughter has always been a mommy’s girl, never liked to be gone much but my son. He’d totally LIVE at his grandparent’s house if we’d let him! *LOL* It’s nice for a little while and then you miss ‘em. I usually find that I’m never productive while they’re gone anyway but I do get some movies watched that I couldn’t when they were home.
As for mommy blogging/reviews, I do them and I don’t see what the big deal is with it. I don’t understand why people are bitching and fighting over it. It’s really petty. I started blogging as an outlet for stories, fun stuff relating to my children, and then as I progressed and realized that I could make money and get free stuff that was all the better. I guess people get greedy and that’s when the claws come out. But, I feel like I pay for my domain name and I should be able to do with it as I please. You can take it or leave it, right?! (Just my two cents…but I don’t really think it’s even worth that. *LOL*)
By the way, I won an EA Sports Active on Facebook. I’m super excited to get it and try it out!
Julie Reply:
May 14th, 2009 at 2:42 pm
That was a kick ass comment, thanks for leaving it!
So I’ll tell Chris that his mom and Al are home (without Jake) xxxoooxxx
A-freaking-men on the reviews. You are my idol! LOL I actually was contemplating a random post today, but then I figured I’d throw my whole week off and think today was Tuesday again. (Since I totally look forward to reading everyone else’s randomness and seeing their WW photos.)
As to the haters, enjoy those hits and ad revenue! LOL
lmao…crying and hugging, then made him get ready to go to school! 3 weeks is a long time…I dont know if I could do it. I did a week away one time, and felt so guilty!
Wow, I’m new to blogging and didn’t know there were blamas or haters! I like your attitude though, and this post was interesting and amusing. So sweet that your son came home so soon
Great Random post. Sometimes the dirty laundry just needs to be aired out and you do it in such a tactful way. I have to agree. Hate On me. Because you are just bringing more traffic. You and I are way too much alike.
ROCKING Post Girl!!!!
Loved you post and I sure feel the same way! Last night was the first time I really shared anything personal on my blog. My blog is for me — don’t like go some where else is what I say!
Thanks for coming by and leaving such sweets comments today!
I must make it my mission to make some enemies.
I liked this post! I like your motivational posts, too, but I really read blogs because I’m interested in the bloggers
kickass! No haters and bring the Blama on! lol I think I’d have a heart attack if my kids were away from me for more than 4 days!!
I loved it!!
Great perspective on the ones that just plain are not happy with themselves and seem to thrive on the meanness and hoping to bring others into their own misery.
Funny how they always seem to be named anonymous. Never knew so many by that name and all the same!
Totally can relate to the kids and leaving. This past February was the first time in 10 years DH and I had time with no children. It was hard the first day, just wanted to cancel our plans and run and get them, but held through and we had a great 3 days. Reconnected in ways never would have thought about. Then when we got the kids, we ALL had a better understanding and love for each other. Was great all around and as hard as it is to be apart, it does do all good.
Hurray! I’m happy to read this post. I like it when the author of a blog shows they have a life. Reviews, contests and memes are cool but I like to read more. I have NO idea who would be so ugly to you but whatever! That’s just silly. Besides it’s great to read about how other Moms do it. We aren’t perfect and we all struggle. It makes me feel better that I’m not alone.
Excellent post, it’s nice to see I am not the only one who still has a bad mouth and could care less about reading the word “shit” somewhere.
It is also extremely enjoyable to see someone write and write whatever they want to, there are so many “haters” all though I just prefer to call them losers that fail to realize it’s YOUR blog, YOUR life you can be who you want to be.
Keep being you, by the looks of things everyone likes you just the way you are, regardless of rankings or anything else. Your motivation is one of your greatest gifts and you should be able to use it however you want.
I am teary just thinking about it!
I really (REALLY) don’t get the meanies on comments . . . I just don’t understand why someone would want to tear another person down just for the sake of doing it? Aren’t we all supposed to be supporting each other??
I really enjoyed reading this article. Julie, there is nothing wrong with writing a little bit about your personal life. It adds some spice to your blog. My blog was originally going to be just an informative resource blog but when I started to have issues at home and needed an outlet to vent I used my blog and I received so many compliments on my personal posts. I guess that is how my Weekend Reflection meme started.
Fortunately I haven’t came across any “enemies” in the blogging world. But I agree it is great to meet new friends through our blogs. I haven’t had the opportunity to meet any of them in person like you have, maybe someday.
You keep writing and I will give you a ton of page views! Have a wonderful week.